At one point, I sat down to write out my personal and business priorities and goals. The business goals were very easily put on paper. My personal priorities were also straightforward and no lengthy thought process was involved. Next came my personal goals. To my own surprise, I was stumped. It actually took me several days of contemplation before I could come up with any.
At this point in our business and personal life, it was apparent what was driving the entire system. It was the business. That doesn’t sound so awful, knowing that any business takes time and effort; however, when I examined my priorities, something was awry.
I knew exactly what my priorities were, but when I examined if my life reflected those priorities, it was evident I was not living the priorities. The results of being driven by the business and laying priorities aside, just one more time, showed themselves by stress, lack of organization, fast paced living and running in circles. It was easy to admit the business had gotten in the way of priorities.
When priorities are sacrificed, we become slaves to our business. Our businesses run us. Our priorities take second place. Personal lives become meshed with the business. Often times this is justified by thinking certain things can only be done certain ways to gain the ultimate business of more dollars. Thus, we end chipping away at our priorities while struggling to build the business. Our businesses should be built upon a solid foundation of personal priorities, beliefs, morals and ethics. Unfortunately, we are often driven by the business and the foundation of personal ideals begins to crumble. If the business is weak financially or in labor force, we must force ourselves to be more innovative to build the business on top of priorities, instead of through them.
As a reader, you may think, "This is fine for the Moores in their situation, but they just don’t know my position. I have debts, problems, projects, and different situations.” I have come to realize that we are all laden with our share of burdens and they are unique. If your burdens have the effect of stress and fast paced living, I challenge you to try writing your personal priorities on a scrap of paper. On the other side, write specific personal goals. Is most of what comes to mind at first business oriented? Can you really say that your priorities are number one every single day, or have they been laid aside lately?
There is a way to change this problem of ignoring our priorities. Self-discipline and honesty, with oneself is the best place to start. I have helped clients and our family and business through some transitions to bring prioritized living to the forefront and be the driving factor in their lives. It leads to a much happier, healthier, sound way of living. Life without worry and stress is attainable! What has been the driving force behind the situations you encountered today?
- Nancy Moore